My Mother in law passed away in August, has hit my 89 year old Pa in law quite hard.
He has been told they won't operate on his leaky heart valves at 89, so he's GRUMPY!
He has bad days and really bad days where he says "I'll never see LIVERPOOL play again" he lives for sport on Sky.

My younger brother has heart problems and goes in for an angioplasty investigation on Thursday, we're hoping if they find blocked arteries they'll do it there and then.

Had my 88 year old Mum with us last week, she was a bit run down but she put it down to worrying about her Baby Boy.
Took her home and told her to go to Doc's " OK will next week"
Phoned her Sun, said she was feeling off so had arranged sister to take her to Doc's Mon.
Mon got phone call from Sis, 'took Mum into Hospital last night' with believed chest infection, turns out she had had a minor heart attack.
Now she's complaining she's in Hospital, but if she'd gone to Doc when told she wouldn't have needed to.
Why oh why won't old people do as they are told.
Will be popping down to Taunton a few times in the coming days.
At the moment she has over 80 offspring, 8 children, God knows how many children and grandchildren and great grandchildren, so visiting will be busy.Were hoping for 100 by the time she is 100!


There is humour in every occasion as when my two grandchildren were told about their great grandmother passing away, the 5 year old said "OK, can I go out to play now".
The 8 year old had a few tears then asked "If Nanny died in her sleep, does that mean she'll dream forever"
We thought that was a wonderful thought and sentiment coming from an 8 year old.

God bless you all!

John

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Well I don't know if you noticed but I have not been on lately.
When I popped down to see Mum on Sept 16th she was in Hospital, looking poorly but feeling 'chirpy' she left Hosp on the Tuesday one of my 6 sisters stayed with her as she was unsteady on her feet.
We went down to see her again on the 14th Oct and saw a marked deterioration in her, saw her again on the 15th and popped in to see her on the 16th before we came home she was worse, she didn't want an ambulance or Doc, later asked for Doc but she passed away in our arms.

She had signed 'DO NOT RESUCITATE' forms or a living will, and stated she did not want to be cut open to be operated on.

I have just returned after organising her funeral and disposal of assets.

She was well prepared as the will left iems to every member of the family, and when we opened her jewellery boxes every item had the name of a daughter or granddaughter in it.

85 people attended her funeral 63 were from her family except her 31 great grandchildren.

We had a few tears and a few drinks in her memory.

She will be missed but not forgotten as all Mums and Dads are.

John

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So sorry to hear you news, i hope that she rests in peace.

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John,
Sorry to read your story.
She will rest in peace knowing that she had covered every eventuality.
You must be really sad.
Commiserations and hope that you have very fond memories to remind you of the good times.

dave

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As above, John, sorry to hear of your woes. I'm really not very good at saying anything useful at times like these, so I'll just say that I know how you feel and I empathise.

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it will get better you will find the good memories will start to overtake the sad thoughts
although most people want to give there sympathy happy memories and stories will help you move on quicker

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Thinking of you and Janet at this sad time John.

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Well the fun goes on, over the past 2 weeks I have had to call the Doc for Pa in Law (89), he is now in hospital with a recurring persistent chest infection.

The trouble is is that he had it 3 weeks before he said anything, we say "Have you called the doctor".
Response 'can't be bothered'
So I go round call his doc for home visit, wait until doc checks him out, gets his prescription 'That won't bloody work' says he. I sit with him until 6 at night.

He says 'I'm grieving' for wife he lost in Aug, I say Janet my wife is also grieving for her mother and he dad is not well, and we have to get on with life.

4 days later he is REALLY GRUMPY and upsets wifey, I go round 'This bloody antibiotic is not working' Me "Have you called DR" 'No can't be bothered'
Call Dr get new different prescription, sit with him again till 6.
2 days later he calls wife at 7 in evening ' I'm not too good going to bed early'
Next morning he calls at 7 in morning 'I'm feeling fine' Wife goes off on her annual visit to Bluewater shops.
I call him at 10 to check " how are you?" 'Bloody awful, I should be in hospital'
I go round get Dr in who arranges hospitalisation, he is given choice of small local hospital or big monstrous conglomerate. He opts for small local, bed not available till next day, OK we'll wait.
District nurse visits explains what is happening, everything fine. stays again till 6.

Next day I go round at 9, finds him sat in chair dressed ready why haven't they phoned they start at 7, I say the district nurses start at 7, the hospital start at 8.30. Him 'I hope we're not sat here all day again' I say if it comes to it you'll got to the big hospital.

9.45 district nurse comes in says local hospital have bed so I take him, book him in and stay till 12 lunch.
Wife and I visit at night he is still grumpy but not so much, wife says when you come out you can stay with us.
Next day 2nd daughter comes over from Holland and we visit him he is feeling a bit better but very rude to one coloured nurse he calls a c@@n we say you can't call them that.
He then says I will come and live with you.

But why oh why can't old people take responsibility for themselves any more, he says stop treating me like a child, we feel like saying stop behaving like one.

We're just hoping he makes his 90th party we've arranged for January.

Ah well life goes on.

John

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